In essence, they were an evangelist at their local university campus and they were looking for support for their efforts.
I have no problem with ministries as a whole, they offer direct contact with God’s message of “Good News” of salvation and eternal life.
What I do have a problem with is how they approach those that they consider that are not in ministries like themselves.
It stems from this attitude.
The email I was sent outlined how God was working in the lives of others and they shared a video of what they were doing, but they wanted to sit down and share how I could help support their efforts.
The bottom line: They were looking for my support in their ministry.
Nothing wrong with their ministry or their mission, I 100% support any effort of this type.
I have no problem with what they did, but they did fail in one BIG aspect.
They were looking for a handout first before they offered a handshake.
It’s as if a man had not even met a woman yet and asked her to marry him without courting or dating her.
Ladies, how would you take this type of actions from a man who you have not met before?
Yep, you’d be put off, as was I with the email I got.
It came across more about them receiving money than about building a relationship between us. Tells you where their heart was, doesn’t it?
How does one counter this attitude?
Are you better off? Are they better off?
I heard a presentation given by Dr. Jackson of Project C.U.R.E. He was taught by his dad a simple common sense principle regarding getting ahead in life. He said, “If you want to get what you want, you have to help others get what they want?” He taught them to barter, as kids they learned to barter a litter of special rabbits with their neighbors to get what they wanted. A tricycle. A bike. And by the time he was a young teenager they had bartered for a car, but he and his brothers had to call their dad to come drive it home because they were not old enough to drive yet!
But his dad always asked him, “Are you better off from the trade?” When he and his brothers answered in the yes, his next question was, “Are the people you traded with better off, too?”
Learning this business principle, Dr. Jackson had a goal as a teenager of being a millionaire by age 25. By age 30 he was a millionaire 16 times over. The people he hung around with were just as wealthy or wealthier, but he found that they and he and his wife were not happy. He and his wife had a discussion and asked, why? When were they happiest?
They were happiest when they had little money and lots of dreams and most of all, helping others with God at their side. They started Project C.U.R.E., an organization that is “the largest provider of donated medical supplies and equipment to developing countries around the world” receiving numerous awards for their work.
How does the Dr. Jackson story relate to handouts and handshakes?
In any transaction is about mutual satisfaction. In order to transact any business there needs to be a handshake of introduction and then a handshake of a negotiated agreement before a handoff of items takes place, i.e. an exchange of money for an item or bartering one item for another.
If you don’t follow the above advice, you won’t get any farther than you are because you don’t love your neighbor AS yourself, you’re loving your neighbor FOR yourself, I win, you lose.