I was lying in bed this morning reflecting on what has transpired in my life these last few weeks. Mostly cantankerous comments toward me (not just one comment, but multiple comments from multiple sources about many topics). You know what I’m talking about.
When you say something that is on your mind or if you’re like me, thinking out loud about a topic, and individuals get “diarrhea of the mouth, constipation of the brain” and become critical of your thoughts and words, based on their thoughts. As if you’re wrong for thinking or questioning what you’re thinking. Or as it is in most cases, judging you, i.e. condemning your thoughts, rather than judging you, i.e. weighing and weighing in on, what you’re thinking.
The former to shut you down, the latter contributes to your thoughts as you work out or through the issue you’re thinking about. In most cases, people’s comments are the former, hence the reason for this post
One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.
In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was one only.
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints, so I said to the Lord,
“You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there has only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?”
The Lord replied, “The years when you have seen only one set of footprints, my child, is when I carried you.” Mary Stevenson, 1936
You don’t get a second chance to make a good FIRST impression
There is a saying regarding networking that “you don’t get a second chance to make a good impression.” That means when you first meet someone, be careful and cautious about how you come across to others that you have newly met.
But the sad part is that this comment goes both ways, not just how you are perceived by others, but how you perceive them, too. Perception is a two way street.
The second sad part is that too often we dismiss others based on our first impression. In reality our second, third, fourth and subsequent encounters should either confirm or deny our first impression. Reason being, if they come across badly, they may have had a bad day. Besides, haven’t you had a bad day and taken it out on others? We all have, so cut everyone some slack.
However, this next section is the element that cuts differently
You don’t get a second chance to make a LASTING impression
Once you meet someone, you may never meet them again. Whether they don’t want to talk with you or you them, you may never have a chance to talk or interact with them. Which now begs the question:
What will be the last impression that you have of the other person or you give them?
A FB friend posted this morning that his wife whispered sweet nothings in his ear and then shortly thereafter had a brain hemorrhage and died. But that’s not the sad part. Her last words to her kids were not nice, and that’s their final memory of her. Saying bad things to them.
So you see, when you leave someone’s embrace or their presence, remember that you’re last encounter may be the last time you meet them. Just as putting footprints in the sand on a beach, leave a good lasting impression when you leave.